Re: How can I...

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sharon_at_shaw.ca
Date: 07/22/04 

Date: Thu, 22 Jul 2004 17:06:33 GMT

I'm willing to bet that you don't have a teenage son with problems, do
you Francis? Instead of criticising him on his relationship with his
son, or faulting his actions, why not just leave it alone if you have
no helpful advice to offer him.

In any event, he IS the parent, he IS paying for the equipment and
services, and has a right and I believe, a responsibility, to know if
his son is up to no good on the computer. The son is obviously being
evasive, which would logically make one assume there *could* be
trouble, or at least a reason why he's hiding his actions.

I would sit your son down and tell him that you HAVE tried checking
the history (as he told you to do), and that you know he's erased his
tracks. And that you want him to stop erasing the history, or you'll
just have to assume that he's hiding something for a reason, in which
case you'll have to discontinue your internet service. Explain to him
that you have gotten a call(s) from the ISP warning you about the
situation. (Is it that the ISP is concerned with the level of
'uploading' he is doing? If that's the case, it sounds like he might
be using file-sharing programs a lot.)

Look into some of the software programs out there that are available
for these kind of situations. Could be tho, that he could get around
them anyway.

You have every right to be concerned about his use of the computer.
Speaking as a friend to a mother whose son got busted last year for
hacking, I think you have every right to know what your son is up to.

We're not talking about reading his emails for pete's sake.

On Thu, 22 Jul 2004 07:35:30 -0400, "francis gerard"
<dekerf@hotmail.com> wrote:

>
><anonymous@discussions.microsoft.com> wrote in message
>news:1c3701c46f9b$0589afa0$a501280a@phx.gbl...
>> Well taking the pc... thats alot of work unpluging every
>> thing... To much work...
>>
>> Today we were fighting over what he was doing... started
>> off good.
>>
>> I asked him whats new? And he said nothing.. (thats a
>> good convo for us latly :))
>> So then I asked what have you been doing on the computer
>> latly because you never leave the house your always on it.
>>
>> And he said "it dont matter"
>
>he's probably right
>
>> And my son said well when you find proof of what im doing
>> then you can do what ever you want...
>> then he said and I quote "If you really want to know what
>> im doing find history on the pc"
>
>sounds to me like he's trying to tell you something...
>
>> So... I unpluged the computer and.. well he got mad and
>> stormed off and told him he was grounded...
>>
>> Then I went to work with monator (good suggestion...
>> though it would work right...)
>
>i can only imagine what your co-workers thought as you walked in with a
>computer monitor under your arms
>
>> I come home and hes on the pc... I know what you are
>> thinking... I thought the same...
>>
>> He had a new monator pluged in *shock*
>
>resourceful bugger, ain't he! ;-)
>
>> So I said do I have to take the tower tommorow?
>
>get a laptop... you'll probably it easier to carry around
>
>> ANd he said well if you do Ill get another one... then he
>> said again and I quote "If you really want to know what
>> im doing find history on the pc"
>
>ok he's definitely got an attitude problem, but maybe cause he doesn't know
>how to broach the subject... assuming there is one to begin with
>
>sit him down and say, 'listen buddy, cut the crap, just tell me what's on
>your mind, i'm your mother/father, i love you and whatever it is, i'll
>understand and and respect you... blahblahblah' you get the point
>
>> So... Now im between a rock and a hard place...
>>
>> Man... this is like Dr Phil or somthing... I just want to
>> check what hes been doing... and Its my computer, I pay
>> to run it, I have tryed every thing...
>
>dr phil indeed...
>and probably where you're getting ideas for your posts in this NG too
>
>stop playing detective, you should be more worried about why you and your
>son can't be open and honest with each other
>
>> Any suggestions *shocked* or ways to find out what hes
>> been doing?
>
>you don't need to find evidence of what your son has been up to, what you
>both need is a good therapist so you can learn to communicate with each
>other, and stop being paranoid and sneaking around

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